How to Live in Harmony with One Another

 “Our love must not be limited to those who are near to us. The divine purpose of close relationships is to expand that love. Nature breaks the ties of family life only to teach us that the love we give our family needs to be extended also to our neighbors, our friends, our country and to all nations.”
~Yogananda, Spiritual Relationships~

You exist because you are related; and it is the lack of understanding of relationship that causes conflict.
~Krishnamurti~

Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.
~Mahatma Gandhi, Indian spiritual leader~

 

Why relationships hurt – What causes conflict

Do you live in harmony? Do you love yourself unconditionally? Our nearest and most intimate relationship is with … our Self.

To love unconditionally is an honorable goal. Yet we have numerous other types of relationships that get in the way of experiencing, living from and being our Highest Self. How do they get in the way? They are not loving!

Virtually everyone has a significant number of interactions with other people – in the workplace, in the family and home, in the community, when we shop and do errands.

To be living in harmony with all those around us is also a noble goal. Yet how harmonious and loving are those interactions – how trusting – how loving? How much distrust, insecurity, and negativity is involved?

Can we create global harmony when we don’t experience this in our “local” relationships? Probably not! World harmony is going to start with you – harmony in your piece of world, in your feelings and thinking about other people in your world.

What is in the way?

The only thing between us and those trusting, loving and harmonious interactions with others is our feelings! We have judgments, complaints, disapproval, criticisms of everyone else out in our world … and of ourselves, if we are honest. This is very subtle, yes, but what it really is? Negative energy!

Being unconditionally loving does not turn you into a fool. In fact, you’d be a fool not to live from unconditional love in everything you do!

The trick is how to have it …

Releasing is how to have that.

Releasing excels – through simple steps you easily learn in ARC’s Foundational Course for Living Your Potential© – at helping you identify and get rid of all those pesky feelings of judgment and disapproval (all negative feelings!) so that the Love that has always been there can shine forth.

Every human is all-loving. It is our natural state of being! We don’t need to “reprogram” ourselves for love! It is already there… hidden …

A mountain of negative feelings built up over it, covering your loving kindness… your natural ability to be loving, trusting, accepting and peaceful with everyone and everything.

Fix that by learning to Release! Most of these suppressed feelings are tucked away in the subconscious. ARC’s Foundational Course for Living Your Potential© teaches you how to bring them out of hiding, look at them – and permanently let them go.

What kind of feelings and situations come between us and happy interactions with others?

• Stress … and who really knows anything about coping with stress? Not many of us.
• Unresolved emotions like grief over a loss.
• Anger at how someone treated you.
• Loss and grief … collected because we don’t know how to let them go.
• Guilt about how you acted or behaved toward someone.
• Feelings of insecurity are a big one – we lose a job and feel unworthy of a new one, or disrespected because a company offers to pay us much less than our skills are worth to us.

Releasing, as its name implies, is about letting go of the negative or sabotaging feelings that are covering up your self-esteem, your sense of worth, your self-confidence, your trust.

If your objective is to experience better relationships – Fix your relationship with your Self. Get along better with your family members. Have mutual harmony with your boss or co-workers. Accept the people “running” your world. Releasing will help you create more happiness for yourself in these ways, because this is about YOU.

You can do it yourself – and you will experience real improvements in your Happiness Quotient with Others even if the other person is not “doing anything different”. YOU will be different!